Remember that no one can hurt your feelings without your cooperation and willingness.
No one can cause you to have any kind of emotional reaction without your first giving them permission to do so. You alone are responsible for your feelings and emotions. When you know what you plan to do with your life, you will not allow annoying situations to deter you from your goals for long.
If you set ambitious goals for yourself and work enthusiastically toward them, you will quickly realise that you don’t have time to allow petty annoyances to upset you and keep you from your objectives.
I found this quote on the Napoleon Hill Foundation website – This is soo true!
I have found myself in many a situation where I wanted to scream and hurl abuse at someone – usually at family members – and on the rare occasion that I have chosen to remain calm there has been a kind of serenity the flows over me. I sense that I am in control and that nothing can touch me.
It takes everything you can muster to keep your s&*t together.
A few deep breaths and huge amount of self-control – but trust me it’s worth it.
The other person usually finds themselves poised for fight, ready with speedy intelligent quips and torrents of expletives but suddenly they find they have no where to go.
It’s usually in that moment that you feel it – a sense of control – it starts off slow and then you realise that you have it and it makes you stronger and it gives you the ability to carry on the calm.
You can get back on track on leave all the nonsense behind – focus on what’s ahead.
Situations like this are great because they remind us that we dont have to hand over our emotions to someone or something. Are emotions are flexible – if we try a different response we may just, in turn, receive a different reaction back.
This can, and has, worked for me on a number of occasions – the key is remembering this in the heat of the moment!
Hindsight is a wonderful thing!
Kind regards, Livvy